My father, my friend!

My father, my friend! | Children spend time alone with Dad? In addition to adding proximity, also can make confident, loh!

"Children learn many things from both parents. Whether it is communicative and also through the role models in behavior and cope with it, "Abdullah aliva open, M.Psi.

For that, a good relationship not only takes the child with the mother, but also with his father, as reported by Mom & Kiddie.

Time Cramped?

Traditional roles are still widely applied in the community, where Ms.
in charge of caring for children while you work. Children often spend so much time with my mother than my father.

With views like this, impress Dad was busy outside the home to earn a living, and when I got home, my time was spent resting because it was tired.

The main obstacle is often the problem is a matter of time, especially in big cities like Jakarta. With working hours starting at 9:00 a.m. to 17:00 or even 18:00 into the night, relative Dad could only meet or have time with the child at the end of the week. Mirisnya, sometimes the weekend had to be cut off with Dad's personal schedule, as a schedule to the workshop, the task of out of town, meet friends, and so on.

For most Dad, if busy work makes Dad do not have time for children is a natural thing and it does not matter. According to them, there was Mother's parenting duty. And this habit will usually continue to strengthen as mother even been able to cope with all the needs of children, including children invited to play, so that you too like not knowing what to do now with your baby. So time at home is mostly spent resting, watching TV, fiddling with Ipad or even sometimes play the game alone.

The importance of proximity Father - Son

Too busy with work unconsciously reduce quality time with the baby. Though the move with your baby able to strengthen the relationship between the family and make you become a better father figure in the eyes of children.

One study at Pennsylvania University (CHILD DEVELOPMENT volume 83, Issue 6, p. 2089-2103, November / December 2011) states that children who spend more time with my dad individually have better self confidence, while children who spend more time with my dad in the group had better social skills.

Provide Anytime

So when Dad should spend time with your child? Whenever every time and opportunity! Childhood is very limited, year-over-year development too fast. What can be done with the child's father when he was 3 years old and when he was 5 years old are very different, especially if the children have started school. With the growing child, if the father-son relationship between childhood fostered not be more difficult to have that closeness.

Just like Mom, Dad also had to have knowledge that he has an obligation in childcare. Father's presence, physically and psychologically, as important as the mother's presence.

Dad had to come out and partnered with Mom in monitoring the development of children's health and education and social development. Dad also had a partner in the face of Mother troubled child, so the child always feel I have two parents. Mom and Dad must be available if the child needs help, assistance or want Dad / Mom acts as a friend / friend.

Make Quality Time

Questioning togetherness between father and child, the quality is much more important than quantity. Has the time though only 30 minutes to tell each other what they were doing all day would be more beneficial than together for hours but self-absorbed father children busy watching TV and playing games, for example.
As with children, basically anything to do, ranging from playing together, taking children to amusement parks, entertainment venues or attractions, escort your child to learn if he had started school, hunting books together, listen to children's stories, and so on.

If you want to spend time outdoors, choose a comfortable and fun for father and son. So they are able to enjoy time together without feeling forced. Do not go to a comfortable place for your baby, but do not make him uncomfortable, for example, to the salon for girls. It may be that I will feel uncomfortable and want to go home that makes the child even be upset.

Select a place to play or attractions different that can provide the benefits / knowledge for the children and also to eliminate boredom.

My father, my friend!